I’ve been thinking about longing lately... Where does our longing for a person, a place, or a situation come from? What does it tell us? To begin with, I wanted to understand longing as an emotion a little better… I had spent a great deal of time researching emotions for my master’s thesis, titled The Connection Between the Intergenerational Transmission of Emotion Dysregulation and Interpersonal Communication Styles. What is an emotion? How does it arise? What does it lead t

Productivity, Slowness, and the Balance of Self-Compassion Lately, I’ve been feeling a little slower than usual. There are many reasons for that. Summer has its own gentle rhythm—the warmth in the air, quieter streets, fewer sessions and workshops as people head off on holiday. On top of all that, I’ve also been dealing with some health challenges. Together, they have naturally led me into a slower pace of life. From the outside, that probably sounds pleasant. Someone might s

What does it really mean to be visible? A reflection on recognition, understanding, social media, and a systemic perspective. What is visibility, really? I mean, truly… What does it mean for a human being to be visible? A longing. A need. Sometimes even an obsession... Let’s go back a few generations. Do you recognize this familiar sentence from the voices of many parents? “Are you trying to get attention?” A child is scolded as if they had done something shameful, because th

On emotions, belonging, and discovering who you are "Despair, weariness, emptiness, and nothingness… Once they take hold of you, they are difficult emotions to escape. It feels as if you have fallen into a well without water and are sitting there with your face buried in your knees. You feel as though you are the most meaningless being in the world, as if you are the only person going through difficult times." Are you familiar with these feelings as well? Have you ever sunk s

An exploration of intuitive and cognitive emotions, the nervous system, and the role of free will The concept of emotion is both deeply embedded in our daily lives and, at the same time, incredibly complex and difficult to fully grasp… During the period when I was studying systemic constellations and ancestral healing, I knew I was on a path that felt deeply right from within. What I read and listened to resonated with me both intuitively and intellectually. Yet, a part of me

On pain, the nervous system, and the courage to be yourself I was only thirty when I was diagnosed with rheumatism. I was considered “lucky” because my pain threshold was high. Even though my blood tests showed worrying results, I didn’t feel much pain, so I didn’t need medication. Regular check-ups were enough, with the possibility of preventing flare-ups before they began. For 8–10 years, I managed with occasional mild episodes and short-term treatments—until the inflammati

Perception, the Nervous System, and Our Everyday Experiences "What we focus our attention on tends to grow." In recent weeks, this sentence has been appearing in different contexts and sources around me. I encounter it while studying how the nervous system works in my course notes. I hear it as a line in a film. I recently became curious about quantum physics, and it appears there as well. While working on my master’s thesis—where I explore the physiological, psychological, a

Last week, two themes kept appearing on my social media feed: the Penguin documentary and the Tarkan concerts. Both touched my heart and stirred many emotions within me. A scene from the Penguin documentary began circulating again: a large penguin colony splits into two, yet one penguin turns away from both groups and walks alone toward the mountains. A movement that contradicts what we “know” about colony-bound penguins. Almost every video asks, “Why did the penguin do this?

Do words have exact equivalents in every language? When we translate from one language to another, do they truly carry the same meaning? And if each person carries a language of their own—an inner language—does a word that sounds the same from the outside really mean the same thing to everyone? I don’t think there is a clear answer to that. What is happiness, really? A state, a feeling… And what about pain or anger? While working on emotional dysregulation during my master’

Let’s imagine that one day the electricity goes out. The quickest solution is to light a candle. In that moment, many thoughts may pass through our minds: At least there is this candle; I can see around me. But this light is not enough for me to continue what I was doing. This room is lit, yet the rest of the house is still dark. If I light another candle, will it become brighter? Or… what new imaginings might emerge from the shadows this candle casts on the wall? Our perspec